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Friday, 31 October 2014
Posessive
When we were young, we get possessive over our toys, our food, our parents and many other things. It's only natural for humans (or even animals, but technically speaking, humans are also animals, so it's just animals) to be possessive over something or somebody they treasure, simply because they do not wish to lose that certain thing or somebody. However, being overly-possessive is really bad.. Not only for yourself, but also the ones around you. Let's face it, we are already 17 years old, is there a need to be so immature? The way some people act because they're over-possessive of their friends really disgust me. It's not as if you guys are a couple (or in this case, a group of friends with benefits etc.), is there a need to be so overly-possessive over a friend? I'm not trying to say that a romantic relationship is more significant than a friendship thus only couples should be excessively possessive of each other. However, we must also keep in mind that friends do not have the rights to be over possessive simply because a human can never survive if they only depend on interactions with one particular person or one particular group of people.. The lack of human interaction can lead to severe brain damages as well as psychological problems by the way.I'm not going to deny the fact that I myself get possessive over my close friends and of course, my best friend. However, there is always a limit to what you can do as a mere friend. You do not cross the line. Yeah maybe your dear friend can accept and tolerate the bullshit you decide to throw at her (or her friends), it doesn't mean that you are right. You're simply lucky to have such an understanding friend that can put up with your nonsense, and you do not take advantage of her kindness like this. Okay, back on track, when I say I am possessive of my friends, it prolly just mean that when I see them getting close to other people, I'll feel jealous and maybe get a little mad and tell them shit like "Why not you go with her?" or "Go ask her lah, don't ask me.". I think that's okay because eventually, I'll get over it. What I do not do will include criticizing or insulting my friend's friend in front of her and make her feel awkward. To make matters worse, some people will even act as if they're friend with the person they bitch about in front of their close friends simply because they are jealous and cannot get over themselves. I'm sorry (not really) but I think you should wake the hell up and not be so delusional and immature? And first thing first, I cannot tolerate fake people in my life. If you want to be hypocritical then I do not need you in my life. Oh my god, y'all have no idea how many times I've rolled my eyes as I type this blogpost out. Zzz!!! As the saying goes - "if you love somebody, you let them go, and if they return, they were always yours, if they don't, they never were." This doesn't just apply to romantic relationship???? I think this applies to friends as well??? If you are so confident of your everlasting, never-breaking friendship, then why are you even so insecure in the first place? If you are so sure that your friendship is strong and steady, then why are you holding on so tightly? You guys are so damn funny. Your friend isn't going to leave you simply because she has made new friends, unless you guys aren't friends to begin with. Also, sometimes, as time goes by, we just have to learn to grow up and learn to accept the fact that people do change. And as people grow and change, we just have to either accept them the way they are or just let it go. When people change, there are bound to be conflicts arising and when there are conflicts, friendships are bound to be strained. I'm not saying that friendships won't last. I'm just trying to say we shouldn't insist on holding onto one/one group of people, refusing to accept the fact that there might be better people out there. Of course, friends are not replaceable, but, sometimes you just have to understand that people really do come and go. Of course you shouldn't ignore or completely forget about your older friends, but if you keep on insisting on holding on to that one and neglecting what you have at present, your life will definitely be boring and mundane. My best friend from Secondary school once told me that it's inevitable that we drift apart now that we have both chosen different routes and that we are meeting a whole new group of people, having a whole new life which is extremely packed and stressed up. And of course, I accepted it. We still talk, even if we were to stop talking, 50 years down the road, when we see each other, we can always reconcile and talk about the good old times. It isn't as if the both of us do not regard our friendship as something important, but this is really inevitable, it is bound to happen someday. lol I'm just ranting, not trying to blow things up, offend people nor trying to make myself sound as if I'm better than the rest of you. The very fact that I've chosen to blog about this issue rather than tweet and rant on twitter is because, I believe that only the ones who care about me or are curious about me will be bothered to read my blog, especially when this post is relatively wordy and long. However, if it's on twitter, due to the 140 characters word limit, all I'll be posting will be incoherent (and prolly explicit) short sentences which can be seen by everybody that are following me, then people will then judge. Let's face it, everybody is judgmental, and also, nobody likes to be judged. Hence, I'm posting this short but long rant over here rather than on twitter. I'll also refrain from using twitter or prolly deactivate the whole account because I cannot stand the people up there and it isn't very nice to unfollow people... Yep.. It's been quite long since I've last felt so strongly about something... I'll be fine. Oh and I'm actually also trying to control my temper. Teehee, bye. |